Obedient Wives

Currently watching "Obedient Wives", a program that follows several women following the program outlined in the book "the Surrendered Wife".

Holy crap.

The premise is that the problem in many of today's marriages is that women are so-nit picky and mouthy (basically disrespectful) that they tear their marriages apart. The key to a good marriage is to let the man be the leader and for the woman to defer all decisions to him.

Wow, yeah, I guess on a certain level it makes sense - if one person is always right then there's less acrimony. It's the totalitarian regime marriage. Wheee.

There's even "surrendered wife" training, a program run by the author of the book which even trains women how to be submissive in bed.

I threw up a little in my mouth when one of the husbands talked about how "women don't mean no when they say no".

Anyone who says that this book and the associated training program aren't psychologically harmful is dangerously delusional.

Jesus, now they're talking about the "domestication" of women. What are we, wild horses to be broken?!

News flash: many of us don't thrive in captivity, and this one definitely don't breed in captivity.

Obviously I'm biased, being a woman with strong opinions. But my impression is that most of the guys I know like the give and take in a relationship - they'd get bored otherwise. Seriously, who wants to be right all the time?

Now they are training their daughters to be obedient wives. I'm seriously disturbed. "Daddy's the king of our home."?!

Ok, I should probably turn this off soon before I have an aneurysm. But like a train wreck, I can't seem to turn away...

Yes, it is important to have respect in a relationship, but it's important for the respect to be mutual, and neither partner should have to submit to the other in order to earn respect.